Tuesday, November 5, 2013

My Hair Nightmare

Hi loves! I had another post planned for today, but I decided to save that one for another day and write this one instead. I've been wanting to start writing about my journey to natural hair land, but haven't gotten around to. And I think now is the perfect time for me to start.

I'm sad. Really sad. Let me start from the beginning. A year ago I decided that I wanted to transition to wearing my natural hair. I had been getting relaxers for 11 years and my hair was damaged. I so badly wanted to get my hair healthy so that it could start growing again. It was hard, but I was happy to do it. 

Around June my hair began to be too much for me to handle. With the summer heat and humidity my hair would sweat right out and frizz up immediately. I hated it. I'm the girl that has to have silky straight hair so I was putting a lot of heat in it to try to maintain that look. I hated doing that though because it was so damaging to my already damaged chemical treated hair.
My hair hated me.


I knew I had to find an alternative, but I wasn't sure what. I don't like how I look with braids so that wouldn't work. And I'm not confident enough to rock the natural look. I know I would've hated my hair like that. So my hair stylist and I talked about a sew-in. It would be a protective style for my hair while allowing me to maintain the look that I love. It was perfect.

In August I bought my hair, had it put in and instantly fell in love. It was so convenient especially compared to the high maintenance my hair required. I played with it. I put color in it (something I won't do with my real hair for now) and I cut some bangs (the bangs were my real hair, but I was okay with that).
The first day I wore the sew-in.

A couple of weeks ago I decided that I was ready to take the weave out. I was ready to wear my real hair for a while and I knew that my scalp really needed a good scrub. The health of my hair is my number one priority. Last night I went to my hair dresser to have it removed and it turned into a nightmare.

She removed the hair without incident. She prepped it to be washed and then proceeded to wash it. After the wash she put in a deep conditioner to restore some moisture to my hair. She took me back to her chair so that she could work the conditioner through my hair. However, it wasn't that simple. Somehow my hair ended up extremely tangled in pretty much a huge knot. We had no idea what went wrong.

She did everything the same exact way she always does my hair and we had never had this problem before. My hair was so tangled and matted that it took her 3 hours to detangle it. It was so painful. Have you ever heard the term 'Beauty is pain'? Well it sure is. I literally cried because it hurt so bad. Luckily, she was really patient and worked through it. I thought I was going to have to get all of my hair cut off, but she only had to cut a small part in the front that would not come out at all. It wasn't too bad though because it just so happened to fall where my bangs were at anyways.

We talked about it trying to figure out what happened and the only conclusion we both can come up with is the shampoo. I had used this shampoo once before in my hair and when I had done that my hair was really tangled afterwards. I didn't think much of it though because I don't know how to do my hair and thought that it was just tangled because of the fact that my relaxer was growing out. When I saw her grab the shampoo to use it I didn't say anything to her because I didn't think that the shampoo was just not good in my hair. Boy do I wish I would've said something.

My hair shed a whole lot during that process. Now every time I look at my hair I want to cry because it looks so thin and short to me. My husband keeps telling me that it doesn't look short or thin, but I think he's just trying to make me feel better. I will say that I do still love my bangs though!

I'm looking forward to continuing on my hair journey to make my hair strong and healthy. I just pray that we don't have anymore incidents like this one. And that shampoo...it will never touch my hair again.

What's the worst thing that has ever happened to your hair?

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